I was on a date this past weekend with a very lovely young lady, who I believe could be a good match for me or maybe not. I took her to Red lobster in the nicest part of town forgetting that we are in a recession and I “have no job”. I foolishly told her order what you would like money is no object. I inurned ordered the appetizers with a tall drink of water. I played it off as if I am on a low carbohydrate diet she was none the wiser.
Later on throughout this date the regular interview questions such as profession, background, likes and dislikes. The most interesting quest that was asked was from her, she asked me what I consider an ideal relationship. I paused for a minute and responded two people together working as one to move forward in life with love and support. She was impressed with the answer I then asked what is your Ideal relationship?
She told me it would be a new age relationship of two entrepreneurs striving to better themselves financially and socially. At this point I thought to my self if this girl is serious and really good in business I can begin my life as a gigolo. I would let her get that money and stay home all day lifting weights to keep myself in shape as eye candy for her. Just kidding I wouldn’t do something like that I don’t really like lifting weights all day.
I then told her that she forgot to mention love in the relationship which is a key to any relationships working. She told me “the love will be there but we should strive to keep the finances a non issue in the relationship by being focused together on one common goal” Now I feel as if this conversation just got interesting. I agreed that money issues can really cause “relationship strains” but many people make the best of hard time through love and understanding.
Her rebuttal was “that is because they accepted the lemons life gave them”. I said they made lemonade; she said “they should have made it and sold it”. With such a display of entrepreneurship going on I asked her about her spiritual side and she told me that she is a “God fearing woman” third generation Roman Catholic girl. (Since she told me hers I told her mine…lol) She wanted me to know that she separates religion and everyday life. Now I am a little freaked out, if you read my precious blogs you would know I tend not to trust words such as “God Fearing” and I am anti-big business.
With all discomfort I continued the date why because men do things they don’t want when they like a girl. I displayed two scenario questions that would determine should I proceed with my courting of this young lady. The question was as follows would you rather have a husband who is a workaholic or a husband who is a good father to your children and instills good family values? Her answers were as follows would you like a wife who is a career woman or are you looking for a housewife? Then I said with a slight squeak in my voice I asked you first. She laughed and said “I would rather not have children and be married to a man who can balance work and our relationship the same way I am willing to do”.
With a huge smile I answered her question stating I love children but not for me, I would rather be married to a woman who is career orientated but enjoys life more then work. She say she finds my answer very intriguing and wants me to elaborate a little more on the enjoying life more. I told her that I am one who gets really stressed out when I work all day and play very little. If I were to label my self I would be a non substance abusing hippie. I told her my views on the whole corporate life and the disadvantages of being in such an environment.
At this time she is a little turned off by my responses and views. I reminded her how sexy I looked by stretching my arms out to call for the waiter and flexed my muscle causing my shirt to accidentally rip. Okay that didn’t really happen we left the restaurant and went for a romantic walk on the beach that night. It really wasn’t all that romantic I hate sand in between my toes and salt water is not really good for my skin. We continued our talks while walking and holding hands like high school teenagers in the 60s all that was missing was the song “earth angel”.
We both realize that we are not really compatible with each other do to our views. But there is an attraction that we are both willing to explore. But not will to pursue such an endeavor in the long run. We both agreed to be causal friends and date every one in a while until we find the right match. I hope you enjoyed this little story, I know the ending was a little anticlimactic but in my opinion this might not be an ending. What do you think?